A brother’s eulogy


A brother’s eulogy: In memoriam to Todd Martin Stafne — August 24, 1950 – April 11, 2017 Todd Martin Stafne passed away the morning of April 11, 2017 in Bellevue, Washington. He grew up in Bettendorf, Iowa. He traveled extensively throughout the world before 1992, when he moved to the Pacific Northwest and made it home. Todd is survived by his beloved wife, Mayumi, and an older brother, Scott. This is Scott’s eulogy to Todd:   Since I was 18 months old there has always been a Todd in my world. The last time I heard from my brother was in an email he wrote me at 4:58 am the morning he died giving me his thoughts on a legal document I had written. When I saw the email, I thought “Boy, he’s up early…” But then I knew, getting up early is kind of a “Stafne” thing. Little did I know then that in a few hours he he would be gone. Sometimes we forget how fragile life is. It can pass in a moment. There are much worse ways to go. Words can’t do justice to Todd. He was like a “force of nature”. To those who knew him well, the best description of him was simply “Todd.”  Back in High School they called him “Big T.” Of course, I never did. He was just my kid brother. I didn’t realize then how significant a “life tie” that connection is. There are so many things I loved about him. Todd … Continue Reading

Todd Martin Stafne, My Brother’s Life In Pictures – Aug 24, 1950 – April 11, 2017

Blue Haiku 4 111.7 Tsunami heart, waves blue soliloquy within spring Viking bells, blooms, soul Northwest Vault of the Cosmos Wind Water muse riff. (by anne amerson @ art ranch of texas, 4.11.17; 1 p.m. CST; full moon) “…in between words, in between thoughts, in between the cracks,  navigating is best met with non-resistence and whispers…. the web of nowhere will not respond favorably to surrender nor to gross movements…imagine a sign SPATIAL DISTORTION: DO NOT SHOUT NOR BE PASSIVE!  …free falling is outside or between the realms of existence. ..it is real and assumes many meanings which may not represent our understanding or beliefs…heightened acute  awareness which may or may not be existential…having slipped between the worlds there is a blessing of a sort, and a partual return may be possible, depending upon the aperture of our minds. we swim constantly in infinite possibilities…but HUMAN beings want control…loss of control makes us feel vulnerable, but this is a double edge comfort zone…we dwell in a zone between real and illusion most of the time…it is as if in this information age a funnel  is stuck into our heads and we all suffer from intellectual indigestion..”  by Todd Martin Stafne 2009. Todd  has been both friend and moody muse  blue since we were teens of the 60s. Mostly quiet. Our bond was that of family friend in the Midwest. I was “older sister.” He was both cherry blossom and warrier with a gift of global insight that startled and mesmerized … Continue Reading